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E-safety for Students

At Alexandra Park School  we are committed to helping our students understand the risks online and taking measures to protect themselves, whether from hackers, viruses, cyberbullies or online strangers that may want to harm them.

Social Media

Many of you are on social media, there can be many benefits such as it invites create expression, allows you to connect with friends, family and likeminded people, it promotes awareness and raises critical thinkers.  However there can also be drawbacks such as it can be a distraction, it can be an invasion of privacy and high on the list for young people is that  there is a high amount of cyber bullying and trolling. 

report harmful content

You should use social media in a responsible and kind way.  If you feel that something harmful is being said please report the harmful content by using the link below.  If members from our community are being unkind please save the content and report it to a parent or a member of staff.

Cyber-bullying

Cyberbullying can include:

  • sending threatening or abusive text messages;
  • creating and sharing embarrassing images or videos;
  • trolling – the sending of menacing or upsetting messages on social networks, chat rooms or online games;
  • excluding children from online games, activities or friendship groups;
  • shaming someone online;
  • setting up hate sites or groups about a particular child;
  • encouraging young people to self-harm;
  • voting for or against someone in an abusive poll;
  • creating fake accounts, hijacking or stealing online identities to embarrass a young person or cause trouble using their name;
  • sending explicit messages, also known as sexting;
  • pressuring children into sending sexual images or engaging in sexual conversations.

If you need to report an incident of bullying or another incident where you have been made to feel unsafe you can report it here

Support for Parents

Talk to your children about Bullying and Cyber-bullying.
If you suspect your child to be a victim of Cyber-bullying listen carefully to what your child has to say. They may feel scared, embarrassed or ashamed that they are a victim to Cyber-bullying and may feel worried about what could happen to them if they speak to anyone about it.

Child exploitation Online Protection

CEOP is the Child Exploitation and Online Protection unit within the National Crime Agency. CEOP also has a reporting system where young people can get advice and report any sexual exploitation online.

What kind of Concerns can be reported to CEOP?
  • ceopSomeone online has asked a child/young person to send them nude images.
  • A child/young person has shared a nude image with someone online and then this person has threatened/blackmailed the child as a result.
  • A child/young person has or is planning to meet up with someone face-to-face that they have only met online.
  • Someone online is talking to a child/young person in a sexual way and making them feel uncomfortable.
  • Someone online is sending child/young person pornography.
  • Someone online keeps asking a child/young person to go on camera.

Cyber-bullying should not be reported to CEOP. You should speak to an adult you trust, and / or contact Childline  on 0800 1111.

   

The internet is such an integral part of our lives, opening up many educational and social opportunities.  Whether on a computer at school, a laptop at home, a games console or mobile phone, young people are increasingly accessing the internet whenever they can and wherever they are.  We at APS would like you to do this safely and responsibly.

If you have any concerns or need advice about any e-safety issues such as sexting, identity, online relationships, online reputation or anything else please speak to a trusted adult at school.

Download Alexandra Park School's Acceptable Use Guidelines for students 

Interview with Lorin LaFave

Breck Bednar was a 14 year old boy from Caterham, Surrey, who loved technology and on-line gaming. He was groomed via the internet and sadly murdered on February 17th 2014 by someone he met on-line. As part of their investigation ​into online safety, four Year 8 young reporters interviewed Breck’s mother, Lorin Lafave.


Hello Ms LaFave, thank you so much for agreeing to speak to us. We understand it must be very hard. We would firstly like to ask how important do you think it is to tell people what happened to your son Breck?

I think it’s very important for people to know what happened to Breck because it’s a real story, he was a normal school boy. When he met an online predator online, he didn’t realise that it wasn’t his real friend. It just shows that if you are talking to someone who you feel safe talking to, they might not be who they said they were.

How vulnerable are young people when they’re online?

They are a lot more vulnerable than they think because there are evil people out there who will pretend to be someone they’re not. Breck’s story is just one version of how grooming can happen because every child can be manipulated and controlled in different ways.

What were the first red flags that something was wrong with Breck?

At that time it was very hard to differentiate between what was just normal teenage behaviour - at that age children do pull away from their family - so I couldn’t really tell if he just thought I was old and boring, or the reality, which was that an online predator was pulling him away from his friends and family.

Do you think Breck’s school was doing enough to prevent things like this happening?

I do think about that often, because every school is required to give e-safety lessons and assemblies. But some schools don’t deliver it in an engaging sort of way. When I asked Breck about his he just said “Ugh, so boring mum, so boring”. I think it’s important for them to give the message in a more interesting way. I also think that students respond to real life stories more powerfully than just to plain advice.

Do you think society is less safe due to the online world?

I actually do think that. I mean we’ve always had predators, even when I was young there was a child killer right in my county but what makes it more scary is that predators have access to us not just in parks and in our schools but in our own rooms. So because of this I do think this is a less safe time because they can invite themselves right into our houses and get into young peole’s heads.

Do you have any tips for young people for staying safe online?

My top tip is to never ever meet someone that you don’t know in a private place - it even happens to adults when they’re doing things like online dating. Another tip is to always remember to keep your online friends separate from your real friends because you might think you know them but you actually don’t. My final tip is: if it seems too good to be true, it probably is. If someone is offering you all these gifts and free things, you have to ask yourself why.

Thank you very very much Ms LaFave, we really appreciate it.

Lorin Lafave was interviewed by:

Anna Lawrence-Wasserberg, Maia Harris, Amelia Toller and Max Sadur Sutherland

Please read more about the Breck foundation here

Download the Breck Foundation flyer

Report a Concern

This is a confidential area of the website. Anything you submit here will be treated in the strictest confidence.

This is a safe and private way to alert staff to a concern. The concern may be big or small, it does not matter. It is just important that you know that if you report your concern here that it will be picked up by staff and your worry will be considered, free of blame or shame. You will need to provide an email address but can remain anonymous. However, it is helpful if you can provide your name or as much detail as possible so that we can support you in the best way. We will always start with a conversation about what has happened. We will then aim to work with you, in partnership, to find the best possible outcome and support for you and anyone else involved or affected.

If you have been the victim of sexual harassment, assault or abuse, there are members of staff who can support you through this difficult and traumatic experience. We understand that it may be hard to talk about incidents and that you may feel more comfortable reporting your concern here.