by Kate, Mary, Hamda & Florrie
Friendship is hard.
Don’t let people tell you it will be a breeze, because it won’t. But it’s totally normal to be worried, everyone will be. But everyone is on the same boat, all looking for friends and all keen to be your friend. But as year seven, eight, nine and ten go on, you will discover the real life long soul mates.
Keep reading and you will hear from year 6 pupils, about their views, which are probably very similar, or were similar to your view and worries, about making new friends. You will also hear from some APS year elevens. Hopefully their tips will help you to be less stressed.
Don’t let coming to a new school make you forget about your old friends - don’t smash a rock, in which your friendship is set in stone…
During my time in Year 6, I had many worries and fears. One was friends because no one from my primary school was joining APS. I thought that I wasn't going to make new friends and that I would miss my friends. When it came to the first day of school, I realised that lots of people were going through the same thing and that I wasn’t alone. Back then I did not know the actual definition of a friend and what they were for. Gradually, I no longer felt nervous… I just did what I usually do when I am around people I know. I then started to make great friends! Even though I do miss my primary school friends, life moves on. The past will still remain with you but the future awaits you.
We interviewed some year six pupils from St Martin's of Porres, and found out that we all get nervous. One of the things that they were nervous about was whether a friend will leave you but a definition of a TRUE friend is someone:
- who is there for you
- you can trust
- that understands if you even if you can have some alone time
- that does not get angry at the slightest things
These were the definitions of a true friend from the year 6's and I agree with all their opinions.
The year 7 pupils at APS made a collage of what how they felt about friendships.
So there you have it, our report. I hope some of this advice will make you feel slightly less nervous and slightly more comfortable about starting secondary school. Making friends will come naturally but if you are worried, talk to a parent, guardian, friend, family member or a teacher, because whatever problems you have, there will always be someone to help.
Kate, Mary, Hamda and Florrie talk 'Friendship' on Vanessa, BBC London 94.9
Top Friendship Tips
We have spoken to lots of pupils across APS, and these were the top tips for making friends when you start secondary school:
- Be yourself
- Make yourself comfortable
- Meet new people by joining clubs with activities you enjoy
- Don't ditch your original friends
- Hang out with people who make you happy
- Talk to people
- Don't worry about it if you don't click straight away - you will over time
- Don't be shy - everyone feels the same inside